How to deal with a broken heart is a thought that crosses the minds of many. With the wedding season in full swing, the one with a broken heart mourns the loss of his/her boyfriend or girlfriend, while someone is happy to have found that perfect match.
Nobody is a ‘pro’ in dealing with a heartbreak. But gradually you learn how to live without a person who was once your sweetheart and the closest to your heart.
And here comes the most challenging part. How to deal with a broken heart?
It’s certainly not an easy task and at the same time not an impossible one also.
I chose this topic for today’s blog because we’re only a few hours away from 2020. And I don’t want you to take your broken heart along with you while you make an entry in a brand new year.
Let your heart be full of new hopes, new aspirations and a new life altogether while you enter 2020.
So let’s start with the blog and allow me to tell you how to deal with a broken heart.
1. Stop pitying yourself
The other day I happened to watch a stand-up comedy on YouTube based on break-ups. Abhishek Upamanyu’s first dialogue delivery hit a chord and I ended up watching the entire video.
When you call a close friend of yours who’s staying in a hostel and ask him, “Are you alone?” And when that heartbroken guy says, “very much” instead of a simple “Yes”, you should be aware of the warning bell that goes in the background.
Everybody (at least your friends) knows that you’ve been through a heartbreak. But you need to stop being sorry about it. You can’t be pitying yourself for the rest of your life.
Self-pity is the most dangerous thing that can happen to you.
So, the very first step to come out of the break-up stage is to stop feeling sorry for yourself.
2. Accept and move on
Once the person is out of your life for any possible reason, you need to decide if you want to accept the truth or sit and cry over the separation.
The first step towards moving on and starting a new life is accepting what has happened instead of hanging in there in the past.
This is certainly going to be the most painful phase but you need to face it if you need to overcome your sorrow. And yes, it’ll hurt you much more than you’ll imagine.
But hey dear, calm down. Everything does fall into place.
3. Distract yourself
It would be illogical if you’re left behind with a broken heart in a relationship and you’re sitting and crying in front of his/her photo.
You need to get over that person right?
Then shouldn’t you just get rid of everything that has their memory? Discard the gifts that you exchanged during your love phase, even the most expensive ones.
The mere sight of a thing associated with your past love can give rise to the buried memories and leave you saddened for another couple days.
Distract yourself, hit the gym, set new goals and transform your life like never before.
4. Drown yourself in a passion or hobby
Take your once forgotten hobby. Join a dance class. Start writing poems for yourself, unlike the ones you wrote for your partner.
Keep a journal. Write down how you’re raising in your own eyes after that big fall down. This has helped many and is therapeutic.
Do not waste your time thinking about why, how and where it all went wrong. Remind yourself that you’re worth more.
This may seem difficult to follow initially, but gradually you’ll pass with flying colours.
5. Make friends with books
One of my friends had gone through a severe heartbreak and had been drowned in depression. When I got to know this I was shell-shocked and didn’t know how to handle the situation.
And that’s when I was remembered of a similar story of a novel. I suggested her to read that book and asked her to see if that helped.
A few months later, she pinged me and said she felt much after reading that book and had started reading more and more.
Reading helped her come out of her trauma. When medications failed, books came to her rescue.
Reading books to handle a heartbreak may or may not work for you. But they help us in the long run.
I would like to suggest a few books that’ll help you heal from a broken heart.
Wake Up! Life is calling! by Preeti Shenoy
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
Why we love the way we do by Preeti Shenoy
The subtle art of not giving a f*ck by Mark Manson
Do buy the books with the links provided in the blog. Some of the links are affiliate links that’ll help me earn a small commission but at the same time won’t cost you an extra penny.
Last but not least I would like to say that the power is inside you – and not outside. Realize this and you shall find the strength to overcome the difficult situation.
See you tomorrow.
Till then, stay warm.
Love,
Shradz
P.S. If you haven’t gone through a heartbreak, share this blog with your friends who are going through this hurting phase.
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Wow! Great article Shraddha!
One in need of it shall definitely be benefited by it. I loved the quotes you used. They tell pretty much everything, don’t they!
Great stuff as always, Thanks!
Yeahh. Thank you Gaurav 😊 I hope it helps them