Have you seen a baby smile in the cradle? When left there to play, the baby happily plays alone looking at the toy hanging to the crib. The baby smiles and plays regardless of being alone.
If only, life would have been as carefree as the baby in the cradle. There would have been no heartbreaks, no need of consultations and absolutely no sorrows.
Humans complicate life as they grow older. When you know happiness lies within you, you still go out and start your hunt for pleasure, isn’t it?
When you think you need someone else to put a smile on your face you start expecting from the outside world. You start putting the burden of making you happy on someone else’s shoulders, which creates dependency.
When you expect less, you are bound to get more.
Here are 5 things you should stop expecting from others to live a happier life.
1. Stop expecting people to message you first.
Half of the relationships die off because you keep waiting for the other person to message you first. If you want to talk to the person, what stops you from doing it?
Sometimes it is the hesitation that holds you back from pinging the person first. Sometimes it is the fear of whether the person would ping back or just ignore you.
In all the thought process, you tax your brain to such an extent that the message is never sent.
And ultimately the neverending wait starts where you keep expecting the other person to message you first.
Instead of all the above reluctances, why not just pick up the phone and call or message the person you are missing? Isn’t it that simple?
Click the send button and push the ball into their court. And have no regret of not having messaged in the first place.
2. Stop expecting someone to make you smile.
A smile is a very reactive thing. When you see or hear something good, you smile. But that does not mean that something should always come from others.
Why don’t you treat yourself with a smile?
If you keep expecting someone else to make you smile, you may many times end up into tears.
Find your reason to smile all by yourself. Don’t let anyone have the upper hand on your emotions. This may lead you to be dependent on others for every little thing.
3. Stop expecting people to lead you to your destination.
No matter what you pursue, stop being dependent on your peers or colleagues to lead you towards your goals. It’s always great to get inspired by someone’s work, but stop relying on someone for every small thing.
The day you’ll stop expecting people to lead you towards something, that day you’ll be a proud, independent human being.
Listen to your heart beats and follow that path. Don’t get attracted to someone else’s destination.
4. Stop expecting people to give you surprises.
Nowadays, cutting cakes on birthday’s and surprising your friends or families as the clock strikes 12 is no longer called a surprise. Instead, it’s a ‘known surprise.’
If you are a human being, you are bound to love surprises. Then even if it is a bar of chocolate that your friend gifts you, makes you feel so special.
Suppose on one birthday your friend fails to cut your cake due to some reasons. That’ll make you sad, isn’t it? That birthday you’ll keep waiting till the next midnight to check if that friend has actually forgotten your birthday or he/she is planning a surprise party.
And if nothing from the above happens your mood will be ruined for the next few days.
But if that same friend from whom you were expecting a surprise, turns up in a few days and wishes you a Happy Birthday, your happiness will have no bounds.
After all this, what about those days which were wasted in anticipation? What about your birthday on which you had a long face and had curled yourself into bed for the entire day?
In expectation of a surprise from someone else, you’d actually miss on the present happiness.
Keep surprising yourself by accepting and winning new challenges. That’ll be worth doing.
5. Stop expecting everyone to be kind to you
Each person is unique. Two people cannot share the same qualities, so it is incorrect to expect kindness from everyone.
Be it your relatives or peers or your colleagues at the office, you need to accept each one’s nature as it is. You are not here to change anyone’s view but to try and take the other person’s demeanor.
If the person isn’t kind enough then what’s the big deal? Be kind to yourself and help yourself to ignore that person.
To live a peaceful and stressfree life, you need to stop expecting the above 5 things from others. Instead, help yourself and start fulfilling your dreams, your goals all by yourself.
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