When to say I love you? Tricky question, isn’t it? With so much controversial thoughts going on in your mind it could be hard to settle on a single sober idea.
Saying I love you and waiting for an answer in return to the declaration can be problematic at times. The reason being different paces. Love develops at a different pace where gender differences play a vital role.
Many a times it is observed that men express their love earlier than women. According to a study, men take an average of 88 days to say “I love you,” compared to a woman’s 134.
Recently, a friend of mine shared his love story with me. He was the first one to confess his love. However, the girl accepting it after a long wait of 3 years was pensive.
If you are confused about when is the right time to say I love you to the person whom you’re seeing for a while now here’s an absolute guide to help you decide.
1. Make sure you are ready.
Even if you’ve fallen in love at first sight, make sure you know about when to say those golden words to your dear one. Prior to expressing your love make sure you mean what you say.
When you start falling for someone, you know you’ll be saying I love you to him/her someday. Your inner self starts making commitments unconsciously towards your love.
Maybe you are ready or maybe you are afraid of the responsibility you see coming after saying the three golden words. All that matters is how and when you say it.
2. Say it in person.
Though you’re an introvert or a textrovert(click to know more), have this on your top priority to say that you love him/her in person. Be confident enough to make an eye-contact when you say I love you.
When confidence amalgamates with emotions your words appear promising. The eye-contact adds to the assurance and develops a comfy level between the two.
Avoid saying it on text or on social media when you are genuinely in love with someone. By doing this you’ll miss on the spontaneous expressions of your partner. Probably, you’d never know which curve shall cross his/her face.
Emoticons can sometimes be used incorrectly when it comes to hiding feelings.
3. Take your time.
You should never carry the baggage of taking that big step. As mentioned earlier, men and women share a different pace in confessing their feelings. Take your own time and decide when to say I love you.
Sometimes girls hesitate to take a step ahead for they’re not comfortable saying it to a complete stranger. Love cannot be forced. Often, girls believe in a relationship blooming out of a friendship, rather than directly falling into a relationship.
Buy some time for yourself. Give it a thought. Because when you say ‘I love you’, ‘I trust you’ goes without saying.
4. You don’t need a ring to say ‘I love you’.
There’s really no perfect way to say ‘I love you’, your emotions are. Let the words do their magic and make it a perfect proposal.
You needn’t have a rose or a ring to say what you feel about the person you love. All that matters is saying. You often take your loved ones for granted and think there’s no need for confession.
Words are as important as feelings. If only your partner was a mind reader, things would have been simpler, isn’t it?
It needn’t be a romantic one, but make it genuine.
When you say it for the first time, the world around changes drastically. It’s either a feeling of bliss or shock. Say it. And mean it.
5. Say it often, but don’t overuse it.
Once you are in a relationship make it a point to say I love you often. Your partner needs to know you love him/her despite its obviousness. Don’t underestimate the power of these three words. At times they can do wonders.
Say it at least once or twice in a month. It’s healthy.
At the same time, overdoing it can be monotonous and eventually lose its charm.
6.After knowing When to say I love you, what next?
The next step after you’ve said I love you, you should also know when not to say it.
According to psychologists, one must not say I love you in the following situations.
- Don’t take too long to say it.
- Do not say it before, during or after having sex.
- Don’t say it when you are very emotional.
- Do not say it as a reward to your partner.
Let your feelings out, it is very important. At the same time don’t feel the pressure of expressing yourself. When you tell someone you love them, it is like adding value to their life. To create a romantically better life for your loved one, you first need to take that big step.
To be loved by someone is a blessing.
If you liked the blog, please share it with your friends who are in need of a definitive guidance. I would like to know in the comment section below how you said I love you for the first time.
4 thoughts on “6 Absolute Rules About When To Say I Love You”
“When confidence amalgamates with emotions your words appear promising”. Ohh ..So true n impacting! these lines!!! Don’t mind if I steal them 😜..
Oh! I’ll never mind that Gaurav.
Thank you for your sweet comments.
I am far so sorry for a social media confession. But “I LOVE YOU” 😘
Woohoo! I love you too 😘