Every year I learn some valuable lessons, and I’ve shared those with you for a few years. Though I was reluctant to write this blog this year, I’ve dared to put my thoughts to words. I hope you can relate to it in some way.
Before I tell you that one lesson I learned in 2021 disappointed me, I would like to know how you are doing. I hope you’re staying with your loved ones and spending quality time with them. Besides that, I hope you’re making time for yourself and having an excellent me-time every day. Because having a nice me-time keeps you connected with yourself and makes you happy in many ways. Here’s why you should have a more me-time – https://www.shraddharane.com/inspiration/6-reasons-to-have-more-me-time-in-2020-blog-post-7/
As 2021 comes to an end, I feel heaviness in my heart because for me 2021 was the most brutal year until now. It was challenging in many ways. At the beginning of the year, I lost a near and dear one, and I am still trying to cope with the irreparable loss.
They say time has the power to heal everything. Well, I think the efforts you put into the healing process helps you in the long run. Because healing is not just moving on in life, it’s more than that.
Healing is coming to terms with the loss and helping yourself live with the truth. It’s about making peace with the fact that the person will not come back, and you have to live with their memories for the rest of your life.
Besides coping with the loss, I was busy settling down in life. But little did I know that settling down in life meant doubling the chaos. I got married in the second half of 2021 to get myself introduced to a whole new world.
Mind you; marriage is way beyond the Instagram pictures. It’s not about the perfect images you see on Instagram or the lovey-dovey moments captured in the reels. It is the most challenging path one would choose in life.
Because after marriage, you are not the same person you were just a day before the mega event. It’s a new life for you. You share a house with someone new. Though you know the person for years before marriage, living with the person 24 hours a day is not the same. When you’re seeing someone for a few hours or few days, you see the most presentable part of their way of living.
But once you start living with the person, you slowly begin to know their way of living. You go through many disagreements on small things in your daily routine. It’s weird how, at most times, you are ready to agree on something that you don’t accord to.
Well, that’s marriage – making peace with something that’s not in your control. Not all couples understand the real meaning of living under one roof. It’s not just spending lakhs on a one-day wedding event; it’s the little efforts you put into making a person feel loved and accepted every day for the rest of your lives.
In the six months of marriage, I learned a lesson – No matter what you’re going through, don’t let the grief transfer onto your family members. It’s the most significant change for a girl to leave her parents house to live with a new family who’s different in all aspects of life. A family with varying eating and sleeping habits and a family who sees life differently than hers.
When you start living with a bunch of new people, it’s a new life for them as well. Your way of living is different from theirs, and that’s when there are chances of falling for misunderstandings.
To avoid all the mishaps in a family, it is initially better to keep mum and move around with a smile on your face. I say so because it is difficult to explain how you are feeling at that moment to each one in the house.
This is the biggest lesson of my life but has disappointed me deeply. I’ve always seen the positive side of every situation. I’ve always been honest with my feelings. And the last thing I wanted from my life was to pretend happiness.
Hence, it disappoints me to the core for not being myself. I’ve to wear a happy mask on my face for things to go on smoothly. Maybe it’s just the case in the initial months of marriage and that eventually I’ll get amalgamated in this new family.
I don’t know how many of you can relate to what I am trying to say. If you happen to connect, please please leave a comment in the box below and tell me if I am on the right track or not. I would sincerely want to know your views on this.
Before ending this blog, I would like to say a prayer in the universe for all of us,
Thank you for bringing us to the end of this year.
May we all have a healthy 2022 with a little less stress in our lives.
Happy New Year, dear reader.
P.S. Can’t wait to learn newer lessons in 2022!