Regardless of your shy or unromantic nature, you’ve got to write a love letter at least once in your lifetime. I happened to read a book by Cecelia Ahern named ‘Where rainbows end‘. To my astonishment, the fat book was filled with emails only.
There was no dialogue writing, no narration, only the salutations, and the endless emails. I completed reading the book though I was scared at the beginning for its thickness. The intense letters hooked me to the book.
You may be puzzled about the fact that can writing love letters to your significant other make any difference? It does. Words have the massive power to re-affirm your love for that someone special in your life.
The problem is everyone wants to keep it obvious. “I love her. She loves me. What more needs to be written?”, is many people’s perspective.
Recently, one of my guy friends asked me, “What are your expectations from your would-be-someone?”
“I’d love to receive a 500 words letter from my special someone”, I replied in excitement. But he bluntly replied, “How many times do girls want to know stuff?”
“It’s simple. If you’re with them, if you share a blanket, don’t they deserve to know why you love them?”
Not all of us are born writers. But we can try and become good at expressing ourselves. Telling your loved ones how you feel about them once in a while strengthens the bond the couple shares. Otherwise, things get boring.
Here are few guidelines to those who find it hard when it comes to putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard. Follow them before writing your love letter.
1. Choose a relevant medium.
In the world of Snapchat, Instagram and Whatsapp pull out a notebook’s page and start off with your letter. Live those movie scenes where the hero is surrounded by endless paper balls while attempting to write a letter.
Some girls watch out for minute details. Right from the color of the paper used for writing the letter to the type of pen. Other girls are satisfied by the mere efforts you’d put in writing one. Know your girl and go for it.
2. Do not steal.
You don’t have to have extraordinary writing skills or mastery at flowery writing. Your words on paper themselves speak a lot about your love.
Don’t steal, write in your own style. Just as you chat over messenger apps, let the words flow naturally on the paper. Express your love, gratitude, caress through the letter.
3. Wear your creative caps.
Though you’re not good at drawing or painting, attempt it. Let it turn out to be a kindergarten child’s artwork. Your significant other will definitely appreciate your efforts.
If you’re a techie and s*** even at drawing a tiny flower, take help from your artist friend. I’m sure you’d have one.
4. What goes into a love letter?
Surely, you must have the question that what needs to be written in the letter.
Stop taking your loved ones for granted and make them feel that they are an integral part of your life. ‘I love you’ is not the end, rather it’s the beginning of a relationship for the rest of your life, isn’t it?
Write those beautiful things you’ve never said in person or feel shy to speak out loud on a piece of paper. She’ll cherish it forever and keep coming back to it whenever she feels like.
Female brains are quite a bit more language oriented than male.
If you are confused as to what to write in a love letter, this will help you kick off.
1. The reason for the letter
Express your feelings not only on special occasions but take efforts on small significant incidents. For instance, thank her for the scrumptious dinner she cooked, compliment her for the surprise party she threw on your birthday, tell her 50 things you like about her simply for no reason at all and so on.
You can also write a letter of apology if on some day you’d had a fight with her. Words on paper have a greater impact than a text message.
2. What do they bring to your life?
The biggest problem with couples is they don’t tell everything they feel about their significant other. Each one wants to be understood by the other.
In this battle of expectation, many things are left unsaid. The little things in life matter the most. Tell her how you feel when she’s around.
Confess the positive changes you experienced after she entered in your life. Say how proud you are to have her in your life. Make her feel wanted, always.
Take pride in saying ‘I love you’ after all, she’s your choice.
3. Ponder on the moments spent together.
Girls like savoring old memories. Write about a hilarious incident happened when you were on a train or an unforgettable memory of your first date.
If you are in a long distance relationship, write a deep miss you love letter for your significant other. There’ll be a long-lasting smile on their face.
4. What do you love about them?
One of my friends told me a story about his friend. She had received a proposal from a guy who gifted her a basket full of rolled chits with a tag of – ’51 reasons why I love you’. Wasn’t that crazy?
Sit back, tax your brain a little, pen down the good things about him/her and fill the blank paper with your lovable words.
When we talk, sometimes we hesitate to give him/her a sweet compliment. The gesture of writing things down for someone is special and conveys the correct feelings.
So what are you waiting for? Pick up that pen of yours or buy one if you don’t already have. Choose a nice paper (you can also write a love letter behind your domino’s bill and leave her awe-struck) and get started to pour all the emotions you have for your significant other.
I’m sure this small act of yours will lighten up his/her face and tighten the bond between the two of you. Start with one letter and let me know your experience in the comment section below. Waiting for your lovely responses.
P.S. – Love letters are not restricted only to be written by boyfriends or girlfriends. You can write a sweet letter of love to your friend, your colleague or your parents telling them how much they mean to you. Good Luck! Enjoy writing the letters.