What Am I Doing With My Life? – the question you just asked yourself. And that’ the reason you’ve typed this into your browser, isn’t it?
Naturally, if you wouldn’t have this very question rolling in your mind you wouldn’t have clicked on this blog link either. The problem appears to be petrifying as f*ck, but it ain’t that scary.
You must have at some point of your life made a bucket list or a secret wish list or ‘things to do before I turn 25’ kind of a list. Today if you look for it and find that none of the things is checked off, do not get cranky about it.
Prepare a fresh bucket list.
Continue reading to get the answer to the question you asked yourself for the umpteenth time- What am I doing with my life.
1. How do you find yourself today?
To get into the depth of this topic, you need to look deep within you. Analyze how happy or sad you are today.
Observe your mood when you are doing what you do today. Ask yourself whether this was the thing you wished to do all your life.
Keep a check on your Monday morning moods. If you are dragging yourself through the week, ask yourself is this what you like to do.
If you find difficult bidding goodbye to your bed every morning, consider it as a high alert.
To tell you tersely, ask yourself whether you are happy or sad about your present life. Because this question kindles a fire in your heart and becomes difficult to cool it down.
2. Do you know your ‘Why’?
In years, I happened to read a book called – “Man’s Search For Meaning” where the author revolves around a single idea. He says, “Live for a Why that’ll help you to endure the How.”
In other words, if you have a Why in life the How will automatically crawl in. If you find a meaning to live for you’ll stay hooked up to your ‘Why.’
The question – What am I doing with my life? occurs when you do not have a Why in life. If you were focused on your Why, you’d never have asked this question.
Ask yourself – If money was not of utmost important what would you be doing right now?
You’re bound to find your Why.
The thing is you have a Why in life, it’s just that you need to pause, analyze and realize it.
3.How to identify the’Why’?
It’s simple. The thing which gives you complete satisfaction and happiness is your ‘Why’ or the purpose of your life.
The thing you think of when you are restless is your – Why.
In his logotherapy, Viktor E. Frankl (author of Man’s Search for meaning) says, the search for a purpose in life is identified as the primary motivational force in human beings.
He emphasizes the three philosophical and psychological concepts: the freedom of will, the will to meaning and meaning of life.
The two most important days in your life are the day you were born and the day you found out why.
– Mark Twain.
Humans are free to decide and capable of taking their stance towards their dreams and their search for meaning in life. They are quintessential spiritual beings capable of actively shaping their lives.
4. Are you busy in impressing the world?
If the answer is ‘Yes,’ you are seriously unhappy with your current life.
Most of the people are busy in impressing others, living others dreams and pursuing something for someone else’s will. Did you ever think what would be your life if you’d be doing what you like?
You are just a decision away from a completely different life.
If the reason for your living is to making someone else proud, then you are mistaking it to be your ‘why.’ If each step you take in life is not giving you more and more energy, then it is not your goal.
You need to stop your chase once and for all. Both your heart and mind need to be on the same page when you think about your goal in life.
5. How to stop asking the question?
Your life would have been amazing if it was not for this question. The question comes with all it’s negativity and surrounds you with those negative vibes.
We get only one life. Let’s live it to the fullest.
To get rid of this question, you need to follow the below steps.
1.Gather inspiration from others
There is such a vast web content available out there where you can find your inspiration. You follow one artist/writer/influencer/orator/comedian on one of the social media and you are showered with the updates they post.
Get inspired by the immense work of people around you. Check what impresses you the most. Try out your hands on what keeps you engaged.
You cannot learn swimming by reading a book; similarly, you cannot excel in something that you’ve never practiced. Practice and specialize in what you like.
2. Prepare for a long journey
The good takes time.
Once you’ve walked on the path of good, prepare your mind for a long journey. Perseverance and patience is the key to success.
Be excited about the journey more than the destination. Enjoy every moment of your life once your ship is set to sail. Understand that you’re on this path because you chose it and not because you were forced to travel it.
Feel the freedom, feel happiness. Fall in love with your journey, no matter how long it will be.
3. Leave your comfort zone.
If you wish to tone yourself in that perfect figure, go hit the gym. Laying back in your comfort zone will burn no calories.
Once you are out of your comfy zone, life happens. Experience life and enthrall upon the good and bad things coming your way.
4. Don’t fear failure
Robin Sharma says, Never fear failure, failure is your friend.
If you don’t move your focus from the ‘why,’ the fear of failure won’t affect you. Failure is an experience, though not another feather in the cap.
5. Take a break
Take a break, sit back, analyze and act.
Many times, people get so busy in their lives that there’s no time for self-introspection. For the lack of which you may land up having a miserable experience.
Take some time out for self-introspection and then press the resume button.
6. Don’t fake it
The most important thing is don’t pretend your happiness. If you do so, you’re fooling your self. If you aren’t happy with your current life, have the guts to accept it.
Once you stop faking off things, you’d discover the real you.
I’ll be glad to know your ‘Why’ in the comment section below so that we can discuss on the How.
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